Hello wonderous friends!
It is no secret that we all get a bout of the blues form time to time and these times can sometimes come out from seemingly nowhere. Whether it is because your mind is having a big internal chatter about something, we are feeling under the weather or we have suddenly remembered something that makes us feel down, there are ways to overcome them with little effort but big effect.
I remember a few weeks ago, I began to feel rather blue and it was a strange feeling as I had not felt like that for a long time. I felt a sudden urge to do nothing, to stay home and to cry. It was similar to the feeling that I had felt when I was in the midst of my anxiety and depression. I felt restless, yet not wanting to do anything particular. It just seemed to be absorbing my every being and was pressing on me, forcing me lower and lower. I had no idea what was happening to create these feelings.
There had to be something causing this weight on me and I was determined to discover it and set about taking time to speak with myself. I asked myself what was going on in my head, was there something that was weighing me down? I reflected on what I had been doing, what was coming up in my life and where I was in that exact moment, physically and on the journey of my life.
This time that I took for reflection seemed to bring me closer to the blues, feeling as though I was trying to find a problem with myself, dragging myself down, dwelling on things that I couldn’t change… But, you know what? it actually wasn’t the case at all. My heart pounding through my chest, slowly the feeling became that of relief. I was discovering what it was that was pulling me away from myself and was able to place it somewhere that I could work with it and deal with it – written onto a piece of paper.
I realised that in neglecting my basic needs and self-love, I was actually creating the blues within myself. I had been working from home constantly, not leaving for a simple walk or potter in the garden. I hadn’t had any human being (I have cats, but their English isn’t so good!) to speak to during the day. I was essentially damaging myself by trapping myself into that world that I had been subjected to during the time that I was housebound and paralysed with anxiety and depression. I was inadvertently bringing myself down by ignoring myself.
I had an AHA! moment. I needed to make ME a priority every single day to bring playful joy into my life! I remembered the things that make me glow, that make me happy and that make the bubbles flow throughout my body!
And, as such, I would like to share these easy steps that you can take to beat the blues!
1. Get Active
When you start to feel a bit blue or down, get yourself up on your feet, do some star umps, go for a walk outside (whatever the weather), swing your arms around or anything else that you can do to get your heart pumping.
2. Positivity and Gratitude
Think about all the good things that are happening in your life right now. Gratitude can really help to lift your mood as you will realise how much good there is out there.
Start a Gratitude Diary, where you write down three things that you are grateful for or that made you feel good each day e.g. my cat purring on my knee while I work, a really great up of tee made for me by my boyfriend, a lovely walk in the rain.
Keeping a gratitude diary can be a nice and easy way to boost yourself as you an flick through and see all the lovely things that have made your heart sing!
3. Treat Yourself
Be it with a nice bubble bath, a new book or a chocolate bar, give yourself a gift! Remember, you deserve it!
4. Do or Learn Something New
The feeling of learning something new can be a huge boost to how you are feeling and the sense of achievement when you have done it is a great reminder about how totally incredible you are!
5. Make a Feelgood Playlist… and dance, dance, dance!
Collect together all the tunes that make you feel energised, happy and motivated and create a special playlist that you can listen to whenever you feel down. Music can evoke so much emotion that it is an excellent way to bring yourself back to a better state. Coupled with dancing, you have hit two of my tips!
6. Create a Happy Board
Cut out pictures form magazines, print outs and anywhere else you can think of and stick them onto an A3 piece of card in a collage style. Only include pictures and words that make you feel happy, joyful, cheerful or that make you laugh. You can then frame it up and use it to cheer yourself up as a reminder!
7. Write a Silly Note… to yourself!
Grab a pen and paper and write a silly note to yourself. Make it was daft as possible! Make up special spondabulous words of wonderness! Make it as crazy as possible and read it back to yourself! You could even pop it into an envelope with your name and address on and post it back to yourself at a later date!
8. Explore the world of Laughter Yoga *WILDCARD*
As a Laughter Yoga Leader, I can recommend that you give it a go – it may be slightly alien at first, but I am sure you’ll get into it! Check out some of the techniques by the founder of Laughter Yoga, Dr Madan Kataria, in one of my favourite videos of him! here. HO HO HA HA HA! :-)
9. Call or Visit a Friend
Get some personal contact with someone that you now you always have fun with! A positive friend or relative that can make you laugh, smile and generally be playful and silly. If you can’t meet in person, do a Skype call or video chat so that you can see each other and make eye contact – this will help you to reaffirm your connection with other people.
10. Pay Yourself a Compliment
Look in the mirror and pay yourself a compliment! ‘Hey gorgeous, looking great today’ then shoot yourself a wink. Try a couple of compliments and reactions, but make sure you see yourself doing it. Not only will you feel better from the compliments you will probably be laughing at your own reactions!
What do you do to beat the blues? Don’t let sad moods take over, shoot yourself a wink, get your playful on and bring a friend along for the ride! ;-)