So you have a dream…but you want someone else to make it happen for you…
Today is perhaps going to sound like I am ranting a little bit (and perhaps I actually am) because it is something that really irritates me.
At the moment, my Facebook feed is being littered by one of my friends wanting a change in career. He wants to go back to something he did many years ago. Sound OK, right? Sharing your dreams with friends?
The thing is, he is not really sharing her dreams, he is outright asking people to tell their friends in the specific industry about him. He is passively waiting for someone else to make it happen rather than taking his life into his own hands and doing something about it. I am all about helping and supporting people, but only when they are willing to help themselves to take action and positively DO SOMETHING.
Here’s an example to illustrate what I mean:
*Posted on Facebook (a friendship portal, not business focused such as LinkedIn)
Friend: I want to get back into IT Here’s my CV, please send it to anyone you know in IT.
Friend: Here’s my CV! Take a look and share if you like!
Friend: I’m going to set up a website, but I want it to be as cheap as possible, help me do it? …Oh, I don’t want to spend any money on it btw so I want something free and easy.
Friend: Here’s my CV! Take a look and share it with any IT professionals you know.
Can you see that there is no real effort to make personal changes or take action in their own life. They are waiting for someone to make it happen for them. And this is where they set up to fail.
If you don’t invest in yourself, why should someone else?
Being a coach means that I work with people wanting to create change every day and the MASSIVE difference between them and my friend is that they want to CREATE change, not wait for it to happen, Many of them have experience of wishing and waiting for their dreams to come to them and that is why they chose to come to coaching for support and focus to actually get them closer to and even achieving their dreams.
The thing is, nobody will put themselves out to help you to be successful when they are working to make themselves successful. And I don’t mean that in a horrible way, I mean it in that everyone else has their own dreams and goals that they are pursuing, so why would they stop working towards theirs to help you reach yours? Would you do it for someone else? (Now there’s a thought!)
The other things that I notice with this friend is the pattern in his language. He is not positive about the change that he wants to create. He sues words like, ‘free’, ‘easy’ and ‘if you like’. If you have ever been passionate about doing something, what sorts of words do you use?
Think about something you are passionate about now and note the words that you use…
There is no passion or commitment to the process of change and it feels half-hearted. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn’t, I’ll just keep bombarding you with this stuff until it does.
Anyway, the reason for this post is to remind you that you need to go after your own dreams. Do not rely on wishing and wanting other people to do it for you and to TAKE RESPONSIBILITY for your own life!
The next time you find yourself wishing for something to happen, think about how much you really want it.
If you are willing to wait an eternity for it to happen, then carry on waiting away.
If you want it to happen now, DO SOMETHING about it.
So you have a dream… what will it take to make you so pissed off with where you are now that you do EVERYTHING in your power to get to where you want to be?
*mini rant over* Now go take action!!