Guiding by desire - Sarah Irving Coaching

I was working with one of my clients the other day and he was a bit stuck with how to move forward with all the things on his to-do lists, wish lists and scraps of paper that he asked me to help facilitate a session for him to work through it and to gain some clarity and focus on the whole situation.

As such I designed an activity for him to work through with me supporting him with questions and exploration (if you are interested in working with me on a similar thread, please get in touch for a chat, I’d love to help you become unstuck!) and I explained my idea of ‘Guiding by Desire‘ as a way of finding out which things he really wanted to do.

Once he had completed the paper activity, which narrowed down the tasks and action and even got rid of some!  I asked him to look at each one in turn and listen to his gut reaction whether he actually wanted to do it.  By carrying out this exercise he was able to remove more of the tasks because he simply did not want to do them.

I bet you have tasks on your list that have been passed from month to month that you really don’t want to do but keep pushing it forward like one day you will find the will to do it.  I know I have had things like that on my lists in the past (and they do occasionally sneak under the radar and appear every so often now) and my way to deal with them is to address them head on.

Do I want to do it?  And if I do, why haven’t I done it?

By exploring the desire to do something we can often find the obstacle that is stopping us which can enable us to move forward or we can simply not do the things and chop it off the list.

I think you will agree that although there are some things that you don’t want to do, laundry for example, you do do it because you know that it will benefit you and if you are honest, if you let it go from month to month on your task list then you wouldn’t have any clothes left! So you need to look at it logically.

So grab that to-do list and go through your ‘want to’ process and get rid of the things that you don’t want to do and over come the barriers that stop you from doing others.

Good luck and here’s to a more slender to-do list in the future!

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