Are you being EVERYTHING to EVERYONE?

Are you being EVERYTHING to EVERYONE?

Are you the type of person that wants to be everything to everyone and find that you end up putting yourself on the back burner? Do you want to help everyone to be the best that they can be only to find that you are falling behind? Can guilt get in the way of you doing things for yourself because you have been putting others first for so long? If you have nodded or agreed to any of the above, you are not alone.  There are so many of

Do you REALLY know what makes you happy?

Do you REALLY know what makes you happy?

No other person can really identify with your version of ‘happy'; it is personal, it is yours it belongs within you.  So do you really know what makes you happy? I bet you can think of things that make you happy right now.  Your cat sitting next to you purring, a great internet connection enabling you to read this amazing blog, the sun shining in through the window or the delicious coffee that you just made for yourself. But do

The Truth About Confidence (That You Probably Already Knew)

The Truth About Confidence (That You Probably Already Knew)

    Most of us will be able to remember a time when we needed a bit more confidence or even a trace of confidence!  There are times when we feel absolutely great, in our stride and others where we feel flimsy and lacking in the boost of self-belief that can move us forward in the direction we want to be going. Here’s the thing.  Even the most confident of people aren’t as confident as you think they are!  Confidence

Welcome to Should Land

Welcome to Should Land

Welcome to Should Land. You should have lots of fun here because you should enjoy the rides, like the people here and get on with what you are doing because everyone else does. The whole problem with should has come up very regularly with my clients lately.  They have been doing things because they have a feeling that they should – because someone has told them they should or they feel like they should because of ‘such and such’ reason or

Here’s the thing about Thoughts

Here’s the thing about Thoughts

Here’s the thing about thoughts.  What you think you know, is actually complete fiction! Yeah, OK, so that might sound a bit drastic, but our thoughts are what we use to construct the world around us and to shape our experience of it. Take my weekend for example.  We were happily driving down the road on the way to meet my parents for lunch. Setting off from the final set of lights, all of a sudden there is a terribly

Stop Pressing your Own Buttons

Stop Pressing your Own Buttons

Yes, you! Stop pressing your own buttons! We all do it from time to time, triggering our own reactions to things and then concentrating on them and ending up making them worse. I have a client that I work with regularly who does this all the time and it really brings her down.  She is not doing it on purpose, it is that she has been doing it for so long now that she believes that it is part of

The Problem with People Pleasing

The Problem with People Pleasing

The problem with people pleasing is that you actually inevitably don’t fully please anyone, least of all yourself. I know, because I spent an awfully long time people pleasing myself.  It got me nowhere and the expectations of the people I was pleasing increased existentially over time making them harder and harder to please, leaving me depleted and run down. I am sure that as you are reading this, you are in agreement. My most recent experience, and the one

Press Play on Your Life

Press Play on Your Life

When you do not press play on your life, you are delaying the things that you want to do by finding reasons and excuses not to do them.  You might be thinking that the circumstances that you are in at the moment are unusual and once things return to normal or calm down you will be able to get on with the things that you want to do. The fact is that there is never going to be the time

How to get Motivated

How to get Motivated

At some time or other in our lives we really need to know how to get motivated and to stick with it once we have that initial push.  Of course we can’t be gunning for it all the time, but when the going gets tough, the tough get motivated …and get stuff done! Here are five tips to get you motivated and moving on the things that you need to get done!   You may find that when you have

The Simple Strength Challenge

The Simple Strength Challenge

I have recently devised the Simple Strength Challenge as many of my recent clients have found it difficult to identify their strengths, so I have made it a little bit more fun. The only rule of the simple strength challenge is that you have to add two new strengths every day.  You might be thinking ‘woah now, but I can’t even think of one right now‘ but this is why it is simple.  You start with two and then just